6 quick tips to be the best listener this Thanksgiving
6 quick tips to be the best listener this Thanksgiving
1. Listen for feelings, not just facts.
When you understand what someone’s feeling, it’s easier to put yourself in their shoes — and respond in a way that fits the moment.
2. Ask questions you’re genuinely curious about.
Great listening isn’t passive, it’s also about asking good follow-up questions. Ask about something you actually want to know, and the conversation will open up.
3. Don’t rush to relate.
It’s tempting to jump in with your own story — but sometimes, people just want to be heard. Let their experience stay in the spotlight a little longer.
4. Be comfortable with pauses.
Silence isn’t awkward — it’s space for thought. When you resist the urge to fill every gap, people often open up more and share what really matters.
5. Listen more than you talk.
Less monologue. More dialogue. Make space for others to add their stories too. You’ll learn more, and they’ll actually want to keep talking to you.
6. Put your phone away. Really away.
Not just face down — out of reach. Every buzz or glance steals your attention and breaks the flow of connection.
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About the author
Viktoriya Manova
Co-founder of Promptd and PhD candidate in Counselling Psychology at McGill University. She is a published researcher at the McGill Mindfulness Research Lab, a SSHRC doctoral scholar, and has completed clinical training in both private practice and hospital settings. Her research and hands-on experience with clients shape the way Promptd approaches mental health content and provider information.
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